Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Through the Bridge of Changes

Part 1
There were so many things about me that I wished I could change. I used to wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and notice all the disappointing details about me that I hated; such as my nose that curved downwards instead of upwards, my overly curly and puffy red hair, my big round black eyes, and, to my utmost disgrace, my weight that could not keep up with the beautiful models in magazines. As if my physical appearance was not bad enough, everything else non-physical about me was flawed. There was something about the way I spoke, or perhaps thought, that somehow no one seemed to understand. Every time I made a comment during an ongoing discussion between my friends or family, everyone’s gazes would suddenly freeze on me, trying to figure out what planet I had fallen from. I was tired of disappointing people and not being able to fit in. My style, opinions and ideas always seemed normal and logical to me, but somehow, I also came to think of myself as a Martian living on the wrong planet. I kept wishing I was more outgoing and fun to be with, that I could talk about everyday things like normal people, and most of all, that I could have friends who understood me and accepted me, rather than convinced themselves to endure my weirdness because “I had many good sides too”. But that was me before going to the magical place called “The Bridge of Changes”.
The Bridge of Changes was an extremely long and colorful bridge, located in the Southern hemisphere, that connected two islands-Before and After. For people like me, it was a place where dreams came true, a place where we could literally become anyone we wanted; our physical appearance could be adjusted, even our personality types and talents could be altered. To go there, we would have to be at least 18, buy some really expensive tickets for a cruise that would take us to Before Island. From there we would enter the Bridge and eventually come out onto After Island, from where the cruise would take us back. The place was so popular, that millions of people visited it every year, which created the necessity for long waiting lists. So after waiting for what felt like a lifetime, at last I found myself aweing at the magical sight of The Bridge of Changes. The entrance was enormous and on top of it there were large letters that formed the words,

                                            “Enter as the person you are,
                                     Leave as the person of your dreams!”

The words thrilled me, as I’m sure it did to each and every person in the enormous crowd gathered there, waiting for the glorious moment when the gates would open. There began to arise a new hope and excitement in me that soon I would become someone people would love and accept; someone I would love and accept.
Suddenly, a beautiful and elegant woman with long silky hair rose up to the stage near the entrance and began to speak. “Greetings, my friends. I know how long you have all been waiting for this moment, for I was once where you are now, anxious to become irresistibly beautiful and successful, popular and well-liked by others. I dreamed of coming to the Bridge of Changes, and now,” she paused for a smile, “I run this place.” Everyone cheered and applauded. “I will not delay this long anticipated moment for any of you, so I will begin with a few instructions. You will notice that your tickets have different colors.” Mine was turquoise. “As you enter the Bridge, please find the ticket check points that have the color of your ticket. When you pass through it, you will find your group leader, who will guide you on this life-changing journey. Don’t worry about recognizing them; they will be completely dressed in the color of your ticket! You may begin this journey as soon as the gates open. May you enter as the person you are and leave as the person of your dreams!” As she said that, she smiled once again and stepped down from the stage, accompanied by the cheers and applaud of a most excited and happy crowd.

Soon enough, we heard the sound of the gates opening and the whole crowd raced to enter. When my turn finally came, I saw the endless row of the colorful ticket check points. I wasn’t even aware that so many colors existed! After a bit of searching and making my way through the crowd, I finally found myself passing through the turquoise ticket check point. My heart beat fast at the realization that I was officially on the Bridge of Changes! As promised, I had no difficulty finding my team gathered around our turquoise tour guide, who warmly greeted us and introduced himself as Clark. He introduced us to the rules; like we had to wait in line-ups and could go through each procedure only once. He then presented the stages of the Bridge, which, in order to save time, I will present to you as we get to them. Although I think that no one in their excitement heard a word he said, they nevertheless nodded to indicate that they understood everything and were ready to begin.

Part 2
Apparently, the Bridge consisted of two main sections-the Alterations of the Outer Looks and the Alterations of the Inner-Self. As we found ourselves in the first stage of the Outer Alterations, I stood in awe at the size of the hall filled with hundreds of people forming line-ups in front of human-shaped machines that served colored liquids. Clark explained that this was the place where we could choose the exact color we wanted for our hair, eyes, and skin. All we had to do was insert our choices into the machines and we would receive glass cups that were divided into three parts. Each part would be filled with a liquid with the exact color of our choice-one would be the color of the eyes, the other the color of the hair, and the other of the skin. As we drank the liquids, those colors would be applied onto our bodies and the results would remain permanently (unless, of course, we decided to come back to the Bridge and undergo the process again). How exciting was that! As I was anxiously waiting in a line, I dreamed of being redeemed of the redness of my hair. I imagined myself with beautiful straight blonde hair. As I observed the other people finally getting to the machines that would make their dreams come true, I began to notice some patterns in their choices. Many came with black, different shades of brown and occasionally with red hair, and almost all left with blonde, and rushed with excitement to the self-reflecting walls to admire their new looks. They came with hazel, brown or black eyes, and left with different shades of blue and green; always blue and green. That is when I began to pay attention to the fact that all the enormous advertisements throughout the room presented blonde and blue-eyed models, looking so perfect and confident in their looks. And only then did I begin to wonder whether the similarity in our preferences and the source of our standards for beauty were highly influenced by them.
“Ms.?” Someone behind me cut the line of my thoughts. I turned around and saw a young man looking at me. “It’s your turn,” he said. I couldn’t believe it! Had my turn really come? Was I really standing in front of the machine that could make me love myself every time I looked into the mirror? Was the chance for me to become beautiful really in my grasp?

I nervously began browsing on the screen for the colors I wanted and found the exact shade of blonde, the Caribbean blue that I wanted, and a perfectly tanned skin-tone. I was one button away from getting the liquids I needed. I held my hand over the “submit” button but I just couldn’t bring myself to press it. Do you really want to become what you’ve been told is beautiful? I heard a voice echoing inside my head. “Ms.?” The crowd behind me was getting impatient. What you’ve been told is beautiful. I looked back and smiled at the guy behind me. “I’m done.” He looked at me as if I was crazy (I can’t say I wasn’t used to that look). “Good luck.” I told him as I walked away, not having pressed the button.

I found Clark and joined him in waiting for the rest of our group to gather up. I don’t think he remembered me or what I used to look like; nevertheless, he looked quite surprised that someone had passed this stage and came out as a red-head. By the look on his face, I could tell he was thinking that whether I was crazy enough to leave my hair red or turn it into red, the fact was, I was crazy. But he said nothing to me and I thought it pointless to bring it up. As soon as all the members of our group, no longer recognizable, gathered up, we moved on to the next stage. We climbed up a few stairs, walked through a large pink door and found ourselves in another hall with the words
                                                 “Get the body you want
                                                In the time that you have”
written on its walls. Clark no longer needed to explain the purpose of this stage, but some instructions would be necessary. He drew our attention to the long line of booths. He explained that we would all get a device on which we would create the model of the body we wanted as we waited in line. We would be able to create everything-from the shape of our nose to the size of our body. As soon as our turn would come to enter the booth, we would install the device into the booth and enter. In no more than ten minutes, we would step out of the booth looking like the models on our devices.

Part 3
As I was standing in line, I remembered how excited I had been at the thought that I could actually have a beautifully slim body with long wavy hair and a cute little nose that gently curved upwards. And now the device to obtain those looks was in my hands and I just couldn’t bring myself to turn it on. Why is it that being skinny is considered attractive? I heard a voice in my head say. Who decided that having a down-curve on your nose is a defect? Who says that you are imperfect because you are not a copied version of what society praises? And then the final question that came to me was all I needed to make up my mind. Do you really want to sacrifice your uniqueness to fit into some standard of beauty that has been decided for you? That was the final push that I needed. I dropped the device and began running against the line-up and somehow succeeded in finding Clark. “Excuse me,” I managed to say as I tried to catch my breath. “Can you show me the way out?”
“Do you need to use the washroom, Ms.?” He asked.
“No, sir. I want to exit the Bridge. I am finished.”
His eyebrows rose up as he took a moment to check if I was serious. “Are you sure? I mean, we haven’t even gone to the Inner Alterations yet and-“
"I’m sure.” I smiled. He took another moment to overcome his shock before explaining to me how to find my way to the exit. It was a long walk. I passed by all the stages that I was going to miss out on and occasionally I began to wonder if I was making the right choice. But I felt such freedom and happiness inside! After asking around for directions and getting a million staring faces, I took my first step out of the Bridge and unto After Island. I came out of the Bridge of Changes a completely new person. It’s true, nothing physical or visible had changed in me, but the way I saw myself had been revolutionized, and that’s the only change that I really needed. I decided that from that point on, I would be my own criteria of beauty, I would not sacrifice my uniqueness to fit into some social standard, and, most of all, I would love myself, because if I didn’t, no amount of alterations and “improvements” would change that!

Saturday, January 9, 2016

Կյանքը Հայաստանի Մարշուտկաներում

Հայաստանի հանդեպ ունեցածս սիրո մասին խոսալուց չեմ գովերգի մեր Մասիս սարը, ոչ էլ կերգեմ մեր հարուստ պատմության, կարմիր նռան ու զուլալ ջրի մասին: Կխոսամ իմ նկատած էն իրադարձությունների մասին, որոնց առնչվում եմ իմ օրվա զգալի մասն անցկացրած վայրում՝ մեր մաշված ու դարը ապրած մարշրուտկաներում: Բանն էն ա, որ էդ իրադարձություններին դու երբեք հատուկ ուշադրություն չես դարձնի ու երբեք չես մտածի, որ դրանց մեջ որևէ առանձնահատուկ բան կա, մինչև աշխարհի տարբեր ծայրերը ճամփորդես ու հասկանաս, որ ուրիշ տեղ չեն լինում տենց բաներ:

Բացի Հայաստանից, էլ ո՞ր երկրում կարաս պանիկայի մեջ չընկնես, երբ մարշրուտկայից իջնելուց նկատում ես, որ պորտմանդ մոռացել ես տանը ու հիմա չես կարա վճարես, քանի որ գիտես, որ երբ վարորդին բացատրես իրավիճակը, խոսքդ չվերջացրած` կասի. «Ոչի՜նչ, ազիզ ջա՜ն, պատահու՜մ ա»: Ու նույնիսկ էն դեպքում, երբ պարզվում ա, որ վարորդը էդ օրը ձախ ոտի վրա ա արթնացել, ու դու հասկանում ես, որ չպետք ա հետը անկեղծանայիր, ո՞ր երկրում ա, որ էդքան շատ 100 դրամանոցով ձեռքեր կպարզվեն քեզ ու ամեն կողմից կլսես. «Ոչի՜նչ, ես Ձեր տեղը կստանամ, Դուք իջե՛ք»: Ու քեզ մնում ա որոշել, թե ո՞ր մեկի լավությունը ընդունես, որ մյուսները չնեղանան:

Բացի Հայաստանից, էլ ո՞ր երկրում ա, որ երբ մարշրուտկայի մեջ ձիու քարի պես կանգնած ես, մարդիկ կան, որ խտանում են, որ դու էլ նստես: Ու եթե մեկը չաղ ա ու չի կարա խտանա, կամ ուղղակի հավես չունի, առանց բան ասելու քո ձեռքից վերցնում ա պայուսակդ, տոպրակներդ կամ իմ դեպքում՝ ջութակս, ու դու առանց անհանգստանալու շարունակում ես ձիու քար լինել, քանի որ գիտես, որ քո իրերը ապահով են քո հարազատ անծանոթի ձեռքերում:

Դե ասա, էլ ո՞րտեղ կգտնես նման անհիմն, բայց միշտ արդարացված ազգային վստահություն: Ճիշտ ա, ինչպես մեր հին, մաշված, դարը ապրած ու լքված մարշրուտկաները, էնպես էլ մեր մի կտոր Հայաստանը շատ թերություններ ունի. մի գուցե ավելի շատ քան լավ կողմեր: Բայց հրաժարվելով մեր երկրից այդ թերությունների պատճառով, կորցնում ես նաև լավ կողմերը, որոնք էլ ուրիշ երկրում չես գտնի: Հայաստանը ունի քո կարիքը, բայց մի գուցե հիմա չգիտակցես, բայց դու ավելի շատ ունես Հայաստանի կարիքը:

Friday, January 8, 2016

Hidden

She passes through life like a silent shadow,
Prefers to be invisible than in pain and sorrow.
She'd rather hide in a corner,
Watch you from where you can't see her,
Be safe from your criticizing hatred
and indifferent rejection.
She'd rather be invisible than hurt,
Unknown than rejected,
Unseen than ignored.

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